Evolve Your Pleasure
Try it for yourself! Below is a free 3 minute exercise, take the lessons to the bedroom!
The best way to engage in intimacy is to be in integrity. This can be done in two fun ways:
Both exercises are very similar and should be done in a quiet, intimate environment free from distraction. We suggest sitting next to your partner making intentional eye contact.
1) Ask your partner, “How do you like to be touched?” The answer should include what is desirable as well as boundaries. For example, “I like feather touches and medium massage. I don’t like to be scratched.”
Some examples of pleasurable touch could be:
Light, medium, or deep massage, scratches, feather touches, holding in place with a squeeze of various intensities, etcFrom here, SERVE your partner. Deliver the touch they have indicated they enjoy. This is the serving/acceptance dynamic. One serves, while the other accepts.
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2) Ask your partner, “How may I touch you for my benefit?” The answers could be identical, but it will feel different.
From here TAKE pleasure from your partner’s body. This is the taking/allowing energetic exchange. How does this feel?
It’s important to always stay within integrity! If you’re not sure, it’s always ok to ask! "How are you feeling? What can I do for you?” The power is all in the energetic exchange! What is beautiful about this practice is that as you become more adept, the roles will switch, change, adjust, and flow organically. This is turn releases the need to remain mentally present for the benefit of becoming blissfully one with your partner and the present moment.
-Adapted from The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin and Robyn Dalton
?* + ?* + ?* = Pleasure^
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Guidance / Invitation
Polarize your partnership. Take on the role of a conductor in a orchestra. Guide the music (your partner) to its most harmonious presentation of all its factors. Physical, mental, emotional.
As the music (invitation) present the tone of how you desire to be played and expressed. Is It sensual? Primal? Intense? How do you want to be played?
*SenseX provides the expansive shortscuts. Tantric: Sensual will prime and enhance the body’s vibe with sensitivity and continuous pleasure. Lust: Insatiable will prime and enhance the body’s vibe with consuming and rapturous pleasure and desire.
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Ambiance
Set the lighting, use candles, a projector, or color changing lights, or maybe no lights. Find/craft a musical playlist, support the soundtrack of your experience. Set the tone with your presence. Use touch, intonation, and intention to explore one another with curiosity again. Touch each other like the morning sun, exploring the surface of their body for the first time. Whisper observations of appreciation or desire.
Discuss what actions you like, and why, even as a preamble to sexual activity. “It really gets me going when we are kissing deeply while your hands roam my body…you can break to whisper in my ear how sexy/beautiful/desirable I am…”
*Both Tantric: Sensual and Lust: Insatiable come with guided insights to fuel the ambiance and sync your body/connection to what you’ve structured. They underpin and secure your body’s potential to writhe in specific layers of pleasure.
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Resonance
Attune to your partner. You know them better than anyone. As the guide, be one step ahead. Know what they want before they want it. Or build desire. You’re the conductor, create harmony between all the exposed parts, or lead the symphony to its highest possible expressions.
As the music, open, call in all parts of your partner, with your body, with your being. Be the radiant energy and also trust your partner to read your desires, to translate them into rapturous pleasure for you both.
Continue your attunement post exchange. Some people just want to be left alone, some people want to cuddle, some people want to chat and connect. Be honest before about how things can feel complete for you after.
*Tantric: Sensual and Lust: Insatiable lace the body with the somatic balance to relax and release into yourself, pleasure, desire, and connection.
Why Evolve Pleasure?
Physical touch and pleasure is necessary to our well being. We recognize that growing infants need nutrition and sustenance, but without touch, they will die. As we advance in age, hugs, high fives, and kisses celebrate our victories and achievements. 82% of men say, “physical affection from their partner is the only thing that helps them manage stress and feel happy.” Many women complain of being starved of touch.
We need touch at every stage of life. We need the comfort, the recognition, the support, and the pleasure.
We are here to evolve the pleasure. Energy expands in a formula of multiplication and addition. Adding what nature has offered to expand our pleasure can multiply it significantly farther than what we can reach on our own. Imagine a hug that melts time and stress. Imagine a kiss that ignites passion and desire. Imagine intimacy that’s magnetic, nourishing, and deeply satisfying, with a formula for growth... Or don’t, and step into it for yourself.
